I'm the anon you replied to about Bongo and I'm sorry to make you worry! As it is I understand where you're coming from, I think. I doubt most people who ask are trying to put you off of writing what you want, it's just so strange to see anybody trying to handle these situations with a nuanced brush. I'm sure no matter what you write it'll be good because everything you've done so far has been great, even Roger's oppressive attitude. I guess I just like Bongo and don't want him to turn out evil.
I understand. But at the same time: I don’t write “evil” characters. I don’t even believe in evil. Nobody is evil.
Evil is an extreme that is so bad it allows bad people to get away with being bad because HEY they aren’t COMPLETELY EVIL. We have this assumption that if someone is an abusive or neglectful or largely bad person, that they *must* be evil and have no redeeming features. And this is why abusive people will always have people defending them, who will say things like “But he’s good to his mother and he goes to church and he volunteers at a shelter! So those accusations must be false!” and thats because we paint abusers like… monsters in the bushes or evil villains
I mean abusive people get away with it BECAUSE they’re charismatic and likeable, most the time. And if we keep assuming that an abusive (emotionally, physically, or sexually) person is a villain and evil, of course we’re not going to accept, say, as parents our son or daughter could be an abusive person and will in turn defend them to the death, even to the face of their victims…
… and this isn’t me trying to treat abusive people sympathetically. Absolutely not. I just think that thinking in terms of “good and evil” is detrimental to stopping and prevent abuse and raising people to not be abusive.
None of this specifically applies to Bongo, mind you. I’m just saying, I don’t write evil people because I don’t believe evil exists, and I think that abusive assholes are not always gonna be deplorable and unlikeable. They’re multifaceted people and they often have redeeming features, and a life outside of the people they victimize, which is how we trick ourselves into hand-waving their abuse and excusing it. Or being blind to it.
I’m not really making a grande statement or anything. I’m just explaining why I’m not gonna write an evil character, and why it perfectly natural for you to like Bongo, and why it’s probably intentional that he be likeable.
i feel like I talked for way too long